Getting Back Together With Your Ex
If you have had a breakup, you are most likely wondering how to get over your ex or how to win back your ex. Neither option is a very easy one, but the majority of people tend to fit in one category or the other, with only a handful of them able to fully move on without pining or wishing it had a different outcome.
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and fully analyze both your relationship and your ex. Think about the way it was and the way it is going to be now. Do the best you can to set your feelings aside and be objective. You'll either want one of two things, to get your ex back or realize that the break up was not as bad as an idea as you thought it was.
If you decide to try to get your ex back then the first thing you should do is apologize. You might even feel that you have already done this. In fact, you might of said your sorry numerous times. But if your ex felt you were only apologizing to stop the breakup, then chances are good they did not view it as a sincere apology.
If you did something to your ex that deserves a sincere apology then consider apologizing again without trying to get back with your ex. Your ex will think you are sincere this time since nothing is hinging on your apologizing. When you have already gone through the breakup, then you won't be apologizing simply to try and save your relationship, but because you are truly sorry and meant it.
If it is your ex who should be apologizing to you then instead of trying to get them to say they are sorry, you should forgive them. Even though you might never forget, especially if they were unfaithful, in order to get our ex back you will have to be able to forgive them. Just saying the words will most often not be enough for you to really forgive them deep down so you might need to read a book (or two) on how to really forgive someone. If you want to get your ex back then being able to forgive them is really important. It will also help prevent your relationship from having problems in the future.
If you do win back your lost love, 4, 6, or even 9 months into your newly fixed relationship, some of the old issues might resurface. If you haven't really forgiven your ex for past issues, then you might have a very hard time getting past everything. When old wounds are reopened it is very likely that hurtful things will be said.
If you have really forgiven your ex, then there will be no need to re-live the past problems. While you are learning how to forgive your ex for the reasons that you broke up, try to forgive them for the break up itself. This will save you a ton of heartache later down the road.
Another thing you can do to win back your ex is to show them the side of you that they fell in love with, not just the you who got broken up with. You were in the relationship because you had certain qualities that they loved about you like your thoughtfulness or kindness, not because you were hurt, angry, and a green eyed monster. While it will be difficult to hide that you are hurt, you should concentrate on being the best "you" that you can be and you might win back your ex by being the person that they fell in love with.
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and fully analyze both your relationship and your ex. Think about the way it was and the way it is going to be now. Do the best you can to set your feelings aside and be objective. You'll either want one of two things, to get your ex back or realize that the break up was not as bad as an idea as you thought it was.
If you decide to try to get your ex back then the first thing you should do is apologize. You might even feel that you have already done this. In fact, you might of said your sorry numerous times. But if your ex felt you were only apologizing to stop the breakup, then chances are good they did not view it as a sincere apology.
If you did something to your ex that deserves a sincere apology then consider apologizing again without trying to get back with your ex. Your ex will think you are sincere this time since nothing is hinging on your apologizing. When you have already gone through the breakup, then you won't be apologizing simply to try and save your relationship, but because you are truly sorry and meant it.
If it is your ex who should be apologizing to you then instead of trying to get them to say they are sorry, you should forgive them. Even though you might never forget, especially if they were unfaithful, in order to get our ex back you will have to be able to forgive them. Just saying the words will most often not be enough for you to really forgive them deep down so you might need to read a book (or two) on how to really forgive someone. If you want to get your ex back then being able to forgive them is really important. It will also help prevent your relationship from having problems in the future.
If you do win back your lost love, 4, 6, or even 9 months into your newly fixed relationship, some of the old issues might resurface. If you haven't really forgiven your ex for past issues, then you might have a very hard time getting past everything. When old wounds are reopened it is very likely that hurtful things will be said.
If you have really forgiven your ex, then there will be no need to re-live the past problems. While you are learning how to forgive your ex for the reasons that you broke up, try to forgive them for the break up itself. This will save you a ton of heartache later down the road.
Another thing you can do to win back your ex is to show them the side of you that they fell in love with, not just the you who got broken up with. You were in the relationship because you had certain qualities that they loved about you like your thoughtfulness or kindness, not because you were hurt, angry, and a green eyed monster. While it will be difficult to hide that you are hurt, you should concentrate on being the best "you" that you can be and you might win back your ex by being the person that they fell in love with.
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