Try and Avoid Dating Nightmares
Well minded people often tell us that there are plenty more fish in the sea when we break up with somebody, or if we are questioning a current relationship. That may be the case, but what are the odds of finding the perfect guy for you amongst the millions of men in the world? Logically, this might seem like an insurmountable challenge and when you start to remember those dating nightmares that you have endured, you might think it is in impossible task. Through an element of preparation though, you might find it is not as difficult as this after all.
Trying to find somebody new can be a lot of fun in all reality, even though those dating nightmares may keep you up at night as you remember them. It's all about the discovery and you cannot judge any book by its cover, but the good news is that through just one encounter you can generally make a really good assessment of what he is all about and what kind of a guy he really is.
Unfortunately there are some guys who are very egocentric out there and only want to talk about themselves, what they are, where they have been and where they are going. This kind of one-sided relationship is not for you and you should pay close attention to whether he is actually listening to you when you are talking to him or whether he is just working out what he is going to say to you next as he bores you to death.
Avoid the guy who is on the rebound like the plague. All he's doing is trying to attend to his own feelings and is not likely thinking much about yours. A guy who is on the rebound is one of the worst dating nightmares that you can encounter, as he is invariably trying to show you off as a trophy of war in front of his ex!
We all need an element of organization in our lives, but we do not need to be obsessive-compulsive about it and neither should your partner. Unless you really like the thought of being micromanaged then you should run the other way if you come across someone who is always over-analyzing things, fretting about this or that or just not going with the flow. Life is too short to be too engrossed in technicalities.
While you never want to learn everything that there is to know about your new man interest when you first go out, you do need to be sure that he is relatively stable, that his finances are in order and that you can have an equitable relationship. Be very wary if he expects you to pick up the tab for your first dinner, as while it is perfectly acceptable to share, chivalry would dictate that the man makes that first move and if you get stuck with a freeloader, your dating nightmares have only just begun.
Look for a spike of personality at the very least during your first date. You must have somebody with well-rounded interests and who is going to be fun to hang around with, or it will soon deflate into boredom with everything that that brings.
In truth, finding a partner for life is not as difficult as you might think. It does not have to be a roller coaster ride as you go through ups and downs trying to find the right one. Realize that you may have several false starts and dating nightmares before you really find the right guy, but by being philosophical you will get there.
Trying to find somebody new can be a lot of fun in all reality, even though those dating nightmares may keep you up at night as you remember them. It's all about the discovery and you cannot judge any book by its cover, but the good news is that through just one encounter you can generally make a really good assessment of what he is all about and what kind of a guy he really is.
Unfortunately there are some guys who are very egocentric out there and only want to talk about themselves, what they are, where they have been and where they are going. This kind of one-sided relationship is not for you and you should pay close attention to whether he is actually listening to you when you are talking to him or whether he is just working out what he is going to say to you next as he bores you to death.
Avoid the guy who is on the rebound like the plague. All he's doing is trying to attend to his own feelings and is not likely thinking much about yours. A guy who is on the rebound is one of the worst dating nightmares that you can encounter, as he is invariably trying to show you off as a trophy of war in front of his ex!
We all need an element of organization in our lives, but we do not need to be obsessive-compulsive about it and neither should your partner. Unless you really like the thought of being micromanaged then you should run the other way if you come across someone who is always over-analyzing things, fretting about this or that or just not going with the flow. Life is too short to be too engrossed in technicalities.
While you never want to learn everything that there is to know about your new man interest when you first go out, you do need to be sure that he is relatively stable, that his finances are in order and that you can have an equitable relationship. Be very wary if he expects you to pick up the tab for your first dinner, as while it is perfectly acceptable to share, chivalry would dictate that the man makes that first move and if you get stuck with a freeloader, your dating nightmares have only just begun.
Look for a spike of personality at the very least during your first date. You must have somebody with well-rounded interests and who is going to be fun to hang around with, or it will soon deflate into boredom with everything that that brings.
In truth, finding a partner for life is not as difficult as you might think. It does not have to be a roller coaster ride as you go through ups and downs trying to find the right one. Realize that you may have several false starts and dating nightmares before you really find the right guy, but by being philosophical you will get there.
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