Don't Make These Two Mistakes if You Want to Get Back With Your Ex
Why does it have to be so difficult to get back with an ex? If you're like most people, you've been in this situation before and you've tried (and failed with ) pretty much anything and everything you can imagine to try to win back your ex. You're left frustrated, thinking there's no way to have what you so desperately want - another chance.
Actually, there are two reasons why winning back an ex is so tough. One is the balance of power between the two of you. When you're desperate to win back the person you're still in love with; the one who has dumped you, the power is all on their side of the equation.
Second, it's just the plain and simple truth that most of us don't have any idea how to get back with an ex. As a result, we tend to waste a lot of time trying to do everything we can think of; and that's where we go wrong.
Be honest with yourself here and acknowledge that it's your ex who holds all the cards here - and they know this as well as you do. If they know you're trying to win them back to your side, they may decide to make you work for it if they're entertaining the idea of a reunion or just take advantage of you with no intention of working things out and starting over.
The way to go if you want to win back an ex is to keep your cool and keep your distance. Don't let anyone you know, especially your ex know that you want to get back together with them.
If you're reading this because you feel you know that your love is about to break up with you, then when the break up comes agree to it calmly and rationally and let them go. Don't give them a clue that you desperately want them to stay.
Following the breakup, keep yourself busy and try to occupy your mind with things other than your ex. At this early stage, it's not going to help you to obsess about the breakup and trying to get back with your ex.
You need to stay away from your ex right now. Don't spend time with them and stay out of the picture as much as you possibly can. If they call, be polite but keep it brief; you need to get across the idea that you have other places to be and people to talk to.
Now of course, keeping your distance is often the hardest part. There are many people who will try to make themselves helpful and indispensable to their ex, doing all manner of favors for them in the hopes of getting back in their good graces. Do not, repeat, do not do this.
This is entirely the wrong approach to take. The ex will either become sick of you being around all the time or see you as someone who they can take advantage of. What won't happen is that they'll take you back - this is a trap, so avoid it!
Keep your distance and what will begin to happen is that you will feel the power naturally swing your way and you will be in a far better position to win back ex.
Actually, there are two reasons why winning back an ex is so tough. One is the balance of power between the two of you. When you're desperate to win back the person you're still in love with; the one who has dumped you, the power is all on their side of the equation.
Second, it's just the plain and simple truth that most of us don't have any idea how to get back with an ex. As a result, we tend to waste a lot of time trying to do everything we can think of; and that's where we go wrong.
Be honest with yourself here and acknowledge that it's your ex who holds all the cards here - and they know this as well as you do. If they know you're trying to win them back to your side, they may decide to make you work for it if they're entertaining the idea of a reunion or just take advantage of you with no intention of working things out and starting over.
The way to go if you want to win back an ex is to keep your cool and keep your distance. Don't let anyone you know, especially your ex know that you want to get back together with them.
If you're reading this because you feel you know that your love is about to break up with you, then when the break up comes agree to it calmly and rationally and let them go. Don't give them a clue that you desperately want them to stay.
Following the breakup, keep yourself busy and try to occupy your mind with things other than your ex. At this early stage, it's not going to help you to obsess about the breakup and trying to get back with your ex.
You need to stay away from your ex right now. Don't spend time with them and stay out of the picture as much as you possibly can. If they call, be polite but keep it brief; you need to get across the idea that you have other places to be and people to talk to.
Now of course, keeping your distance is often the hardest part. There are many people who will try to make themselves helpful and indispensable to their ex, doing all manner of favors for them in the hopes of getting back in their good graces. Do not, repeat, do not do this.
This is entirely the wrong approach to take. The ex will either become sick of you being around all the time or see you as someone who they can take advantage of. What won't happen is that they'll take you back - this is a trap, so avoid it!
Keep your distance and what will begin to happen is that you will feel the power naturally swing your way and you will be in a far better position to win back ex.
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Exactly what to tell and what to do to get your ex back on a date. Follow my instructions and it will be easy as pie because it will seem so natural. This has worked hundreds if not thousands of times.
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