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Mentally, Man Have a Problem Calling After Promising They Will

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By Julissa de Mayo

We all have been frustrated by that promised call that never comes. Why would he say he would call and then not do it. The date was great, you were really compatible, and you were on your best behavior - so why won't he call after saying he would? Many time this will blow itself into feelings of rejection, second thoughts, and days of hurt feelings.

Realistically, you must realize there are many reason why men don't call. With some men it is a "knee-jerk" reaction to say they will call after a date, especially the first date. No one wants to be unkind if they feel their date partner is not someone for them. Would you tell the man don't bother calling because you will never go out with them again? Unless the date was a total disaster this would be a bit extreme. If you have been seeing the man for a while the answers could also be varied. Work related, personal or family problems, or even sickness. Most times this non-calling is not an intentional plan.

Today, some men may not have the social skills that you may consider normal. While they may have valid reasons for not calling after saying they will, they are unaware of the misunderstandings and misconceptions that can develop by not doing so. A simple nudge from a common friend may be enough to get a brief call to explain the situation that he may be uncomfortable explaining, and thereby relieving you of hurt feelings and several days of second guessing of what, if anything, you may have done wrong.

Although we all profess to not want to game play; until you become secure in any relationship it is automatic. A man may intentionally not call after saying he will to determine your reaction. With this knowledge on his side he can determine his importance in your life. Men are sensitive creatures and use all their powers to defend their feelings until they have a complete sense of security. These tests are fine at the beginning of a relationship but if they persist it becomes unacceptable behavior and should be treated as such.

It is preferable that you do not show your restlessness to him by calling him again and again but this should not be taken to such an impersonal level that the man feels dejected leading to an unwanted breakup. If he calls later - after a week or so - without a reasonable explanation of this impolite behavior - is may be best to move on. If there was a understandable excuse for his not calling, forget it and see what happens going forward. Once or twice is understandable - more, rude and best to move to another man who will respect you.

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