A Couple Evaluates Their Abusive and Immature Drinking and Their Plans and Dreams
Sherry and Bruce have been dating for eight years. They met while taking the same music composition class at a relatively small, rural, Church affiliated liberal arts college located in western Texas. While at first they were simply classmates, they quickly became friends and their relationship started to develop even further when they started to date when they were in their sophomore year of college.
Because Sherry and Bruce came from very old-fashioned families, neither one of them spent a lot of time drinking, unlike many of their college friends. As their dating relationship progressed, nonetheless, they got more involved in an increasing number of extracurricular activities such as fraternity and sorority parties, attending happy hour with their friends, football pep rallies, and spontaneous keg parties. Due to the fact that alcohol was so accessible at all of these events, over time they began to drink more and more as the semesters went by.
After they graduated and got their Bachelor of Arts degree, Bruce and Sherry decided to find an apartment in the big city located approximately sixty-five miles from their undergraduate college. Soon after they moved in with one another, they found employment in the same small company.
After working at their place of employment for approximately two or three months, Bruce and Sherry found some other young couples that liked to party and drink. In fact, much like their undergraduate days at college, most of the functions and events they went to with their friends had something to do with heavy drinking. As a consequence, the more they hung out and partied with their friends, the more they engaged in abusive and dangerous drinking.
As unbelievable as it sounds, in spite of the fact that they continued drinking and partying with their friends, their relationship somehow, someway began deepening. Now, rather than discussing the next happy hour or drinking party they would attend, however, Bruce and Sherry found themselves talking about getting married, moving into a house, and having a family. In sum, Sherry and Bruce started thinking about how they could be making a more beneficial contribution to society as they started living their lives as more responsible adults.
With most major changes in a persons life there is often something that severs as a catalyst for the change. For Bruce and Sherry, the thought of getting married, moving into a house, and having children was this catalyst. Not only this, but for the first time in their relationship, they began questioning their drinking behavior and wondering if their excessive drinking could eventually affect their health in a negative way.
As Sherry and Bruce began to question their party mentality and their drinking behavior, quite a few additional questions quickly materialized. As an illustration, how would they be able to face their parents and tell them about their long-term aspirations, hopes, and dreams while they still drank in an immature and careless manner as they had done while they were in college? How responsible would they be if they had children and continued to drink in a hazardous manner? What would their irresponsible drinking do to their relationship? How would their abusive drinking affect their mental health? Would their careless and excessive drinking negatively affect their ability to have children? And finally, how would they be able to continue spending most of their money on drinking if they were to begin saving for a new house?
Looking at things a little differently, although Sherry and Bruce never experienced alcohol withdrawal symptoms, got arrested for driving under the influence, or suffered from an alcohol overdose, they understood the fact that their hazardous and abusive drinking was becoming a serious problem that they could not afford to disregard any longer.
The more that Bruce and Sherry questioned their party lifestyle and their drinking, the more they came to the same conclusion: if they were to reach their goals, hopes, and aspirations, they would have to stop drinking in a careless and immature manner.
Once Bruce and Sherry arrived at this deduction, they had a conversation with their friends and told them that they had decided to stop their partying and excessive drinking because they had plans to get married, have children, and to move into a house. Much to their surprise, their friends expressed relief because they too had been reflecting on their lives and decided that their abusive drinking was stopping them from realizing their goals and aspirations.
After their face-to-face conversation with their drinking buddies about their future hopes, aspirations, and plans, Sherry and Bruce were pleasantly surprised to learn that they began developing even stronger relationships with all of their friends. The main reason for this was the fact that all of them now had a similar perspective about partying and hazardous and immature drinking and how their party mentality was short-circuiting their short and long-term hopes, plans, and aspirations.
Because Sherry and Bruce came from very old-fashioned families, neither one of them spent a lot of time drinking, unlike many of their college friends. As their dating relationship progressed, nonetheless, they got more involved in an increasing number of extracurricular activities such as fraternity and sorority parties, attending happy hour with their friends, football pep rallies, and spontaneous keg parties. Due to the fact that alcohol was so accessible at all of these events, over time they began to drink more and more as the semesters went by.
After they graduated and got their Bachelor of Arts degree, Bruce and Sherry decided to find an apartment in the big city located approximately sixty-five miles from their undergraduate college. Soon after they moved in with one another, they found employment in the same small company.
After working at their place of employment for approximately two or three months, Bruce and Sherry found some other young couples that liked to party and drink. In fact, much like their undergraduate days at college, most of the functions and events they went to with their friends had something to do with heavy drinking. As a consequence, the more they hung out and partied with their friends, the more they engaged in abusive and dangerous drinking.
As unbelievable as it sounds, in spite of the fact that they continued drinking and partying with their friends, their relationship somehow, someway began deepening. Now, rather than discussing the next happy hour or drinking party they would attend, however, Bruce and Sherry found themselves talking about getting married, moving into a house, and having a family. In sum, Sherry and Bruce started thinking about how they could be making a more beneficial contribution to society as they started living their lives as more responsible adults.
With most major changes in a persons life there is often something that severs as a catalyst for the change. For Bruce and Sherry, the thought of getting married, moving into a house, and having children was this catalyst. Not only this, but for the first time in their relationship, they began questioning their drinking behavior and wondering if their excessive drinking could eventually affect their health in a negative way.
As Sherry and Bruce began to question their party mentality and their drinking behavior, quite a few additional questions quickly materialized. As an illustration, how would they be able to face their parents and tell them about their long-term aspirations, hopes, and dreams while they still drank in an immature and careless manner as they had done while they were in college? How responsible would they be if they had children and continued to drink in a hazardous manner? What would their irresponsible drinking do to their relationship? How would their abusive drinking affect their mental health? Would their careless and excessive drinking negatively affect their ability to have children? And finally, how would they be able to continue spending most of their money on drinking if they were to begin saving for a new house?
Looking at things a little differently, although Sherry and Bruce never experienced alcohol withdrawal symptoms, got arrested for driving under the influence, or suffered from an alcohol overdose, they understood the fact that their hazardous and abusive drinking was becoming a serious problem that they could not afford to disregard any longer.
The more that Bruce and Sherry questioned their party lifestyle and their drinking, the more they came to the same conclusion: if they were to reach their goals, hopes, and aspirations, they would have to stop drinking in a careless and immature manner.
Once Bruce and Sherry arrived at this deduction, they had a conversation with their friends and told them that they had decided to stop their partying and excessive drinking because they had plans to get married, have children, and to move into a house. Much to their surprise, their friends expressed relief because they too had been reflecting on their lives and decided that their abusive drinking was stopping them from realizing their goals and aspirations.
After their face-to-face conversation with their drinking buddies about their future hopes, aspirations, and plans, Sherry and Bruce were pleasantly surprised to learn that they began developing even stronger relationships with all of their friends. The main reason for this was the fact that all of them now had a similar perspective about partying and hazardous and immature drinking and how their party mentality was short-circuiting their short and long-term hopes, plans, and aspirations.
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Denny Mitchell writes about severe alcoholism, alcohol recovery, alcohol signs, and teen alcohol abuse. For more info please visit excessive drinking.
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