Advice for Women With Boyfriends
As a single girl, I saw many of my friends getting married as I hit my mid 20s. I was with my boyfriend so it wasn't as if I was all alone, but I still envied them for the stages of their lives they were getting ready to enter.
Not exactly old, but I wasn't getting younger and I wanted to move on with my life and start a family. I knew he was the one, and I was simply waiting for him to finally come out and pop the big question one day.
It had been two years and he still hadn't proposed. It seemed like this was the time where it was supposed to happen, and I really had no idea when it would be. I didn't want to waste my time.
I began to nag him about it (which I've learned you shouldn't do), but it turns out that he had been planning on proposing within a matter of weeks anyway.
It was still a surprise nonetheless. We ended up getting engaged very shortly after this all, as he popped the big question while we were away for a weekend together. I was thrilled.
What if he hadn't proposed to me then? Would waiting another six months or a year or two have been too long? When is it all enough when it comes to patiently waiting it out?
There's no real answer to this question, as much as I'd like to say that there is one. It really varies by couple and you'll have to take a good hard look at your relationship to determine the answer to that.
Still, you definitely have a right to ask. You're not involved with him just for the sake of wasting your time, and you want to make sure that you're both of the same mindset when it comes to these things.
Not exactly old, but I wasn't getting younger and I wanted to move on with my life and start a family. I knew he was the one, and I was simply waiting for him to finally come out and pop the big question one day.
It had been two years and he still hadn't proposed. It seemed like this was the time where it was supposed to happen, and I really had no idea when it would be. I didn't want to waste my time.
I began to nag him about it (which I've learned you shouldn't do), but it turns out that he had been planning on proposing within a matter of weeks anyway.
It was still a surprise nonetheless. We ended up getting engaged very shortly after this all, as he popped the big question while we were away for a weekend together. I was thrilled.
What if he hadn't proposed to me then? Would waiting another six months or a year or two have been too long? When is it all enough when it comes to patiently waiting it out?
There's no real answer to this question, as much as I'd like to say that there is one. It really varies by couple and you'll have to take a good hard look at your relationship to determine the answer to that.
Still, you definitely have a right to ask. You're not involved with him just for the sake of wasting your time, and you want to make sure that you're both of the same mindset when it comes to these things.
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Fast forward three years later. I'm now happily married with a child, and write about the little tikes kitchen and the little tikes cookin fun interactive kitchen.
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